Choice Theory is a skill/concept you should learn. It's the key to solve relationship problems. If you find yourself at the crossroad, this is the right book for you. It talks about dealing with love life, parent-children relationship as well as teacher-students relationship.This book introduces the basic concept of choice theory and reality therapy. However, it does not tell u exactly how to use reality therapy. It focus on the theory. Nevertheless, this is the book to start with if you wants to understand the application aspect of reality therapy in his other books. This book lays the foundations of choice theory and in fact, this is my textbook in my study of choice theory. A great book not to be missed! You will be open up to an array of ideas that you never thought of will be solutions to your relationship problem. No kidding! Below are some users reviews on this book.

Amazon.com (Editorial Review)

Southern California psychiatrist William Glasser, the author of Reality Therapy, believes that almost all human misery is caused by people trying to control others. In fact, he says, the only behavior we can control is our own; by the same token, no one can make us do anything we don't want to. It's only when we give up spending our energy trying to force others to conform to our ideas or to keep them from doing the same to us that we are able to live the way we want to. Glasser makes this somewhat difficult material easier to understand with examples and case studies from his own practice. For instance, he tells a man whose wife has left him that his only choices are to change what he wants her to do or to change the way he is dealing with her. While doing these things will not necessarily bring his wife back, Glasser says, it will certainly make him feel better. "When we actually begin to realize that we can control only our own behavior, we immediately start to redefine our personal freedom and find, in many instances, that we have much more freedom than we realize," Glasser writes.

Excellent Book, November 10, 2005

Reviewer: T.S. Stillwater (Mt. Airy, NC United States)

If you like books that are indepth, insightful, and take some initiative to read, then this is the book for you, especially if you are at a crossroads with some decision in your life. It's not fluff. Written for the intelligent reader who WANTS to help him/herself. Be ready for total honesty with yourself when you open this book. Glasser is a tough old bird! Beware!

This is one of the most excellent books I've read in a long time .. .and I read alot.

Finally – usable psychotherapy!, September 26, 2005

Reviewer: C. Eller (Seattle, WA)

If you're ready to get real with yourself, this book can help you identify your destructive behaviors and choose beneficial ones that guide you to healthy relationships, either platonic or sexual. My husband and I are polyamorous and 18 months into the development of our third two-female, one-male, long-term relationship. Consider the severity of our potential emotional and mental issues – how many places we could fail. Now, if this book can help me, it can most definitely help you!

Honest, easy to understand way to change your life, June 7, 2002

Reviewer:Clara M. Fuller (Florence, SC USA)

This book should be required reading for everyone in America. Yes, I am a therapist and have utilized Glasser's advice with various individuals with wonderful results. The world truly would be a different place if we changed our attempts to control others and actually realized (and lived our lives like we realize) that the only person you have any control over is yourself. It's not only a freeing concept but it also forces people to stop making excuses for why their lives are not the way they want them to be.

THE book for resolving intractable relationship problems, May 14, 2001

Reviewer:Daniel R. Gr�nfeld "Dan" (Illinois, United States

About 14 months ago, I was in the midst of an insoluble relationship problem. It was absolutely intractable. I sought help from numerous sources, including a psychologist. It was finding and reading this book, however, that brought every aspect of this problem into crystal clear perspective, and brought home to me that I was choosing to be miserable, and that I could make better choices. The great wisdom of this book resides in that one very simple fact: we choose how we think, and what we do, and indirectly also how we feel. And we can choose to make better choices.
This is a dangerous book. It is a book for lives in crisis. But it is also a book that everyone should read, and read again. The sooner you read this book, and re-read it, the sooner you will find the freedom to finally choose happiness, without guilt. Possibly the most important self-help book you will ever read.

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Product Details

Paperback: 368 pages

Publisher: Harper Paperbacks (February 1, 1999)

Language: English

ISBN: 0060930144

Product Dimensions: 8.0 x 5.4 x 0.9 inches

Shipping Weight: 9.8 ounces.